Need Advice On Visitation Change (Long Story) Please Help!

[AmIUnreasonable]

I wish you had read my post clearly. I did agree to her suggestion. I said that her husband (just got married) could drop them off at 7:30 am on mondays and i will return them on thursdays at 5pm. I AGREED! now she wont answer so we can start it.

dont know why she wont start it, i guess its a control issue.

 

[Jen2]

What I read from your first post: Her boyfriend or his mom would end up taking them to school and I find that silly when I can do it. I take them to school, sleep for a few hours and then pick them up. I love being the one to do it..

You then went on to say she suggested the husband could drop them off at your place at 7:30 and now isn't following through with it.

Again, take her to court or let the husband take them to school if the sleep is a real issue for you.

Please don't tell me that I didn't read clearly, it's condescending, much like the letters to your wife were.

 

[AmIUnreasonable]

ya know, i would agree to any of that at this point but it takes two people to be in agreement dont you think.

I do not believe my letters or posts were condesending. I am sorry you feel that way but all too often they arent be read correctly.

 

[BL]

Page five !!!! Wheew !!! I'd hate to start reading from the Start .

GO = GO BACK = BACK TO = TO COURT = COURT , even thought you don't want to, because telling us , the other won't answer or won't agree is only venting at this point.

 

[AmIUnreasonable]

yes i know just venting but it helps. Thanks to all for listening.

 

[tigger2two]

Wowwwwwwwwww

Omg it took me an hour and a half to read all of this. I do agree with alot that you were totally misunderstood! I wish that my ex was as willing to get along as you are. Its his way or no way. There is no asking me my opinion. And he doesn't even have primary custody at this point. He only gets them every other weekend. I can't imagine how hard and frustrating it must be for you. But hey look at the bright side as least you get along with the new hubby!

Someone told me this once and it made me feel alot better about going to court so maybe this will help you too. "whats right is right..whats wrong is wrong..whats truth is truth..and you just have to believe and have faith that it will all come out and your kids will benifit in the end." GO BACK TO COURT. dont delay another day or post. Just do it and get it over with you will feel better no matter what. I dont think that a judge will take your time or hers away bc you both seem to want your children and they seem to be taken care of. But a judge can take the vindictfulness out of her and the situation!
good luck to ya

 

[AmIUnreasonable]

Thank you! Yes hubby is a very nice guy. I am very lucky to have a new husband/step-father for the girls who treat them so nice.

Thank you everyone for the good and bad advice. I did listen to it all!

 

[CheeseHead]

I am bumping this one up so eveyone can see how this man has been treated!


THIS WAS WRONG!

 

[AmIUnreasonable]

UPDATE! Now do you realize its not me!?!?

So my ex wife ignored all requests to go with her original suggestion.

She sent me a letter 3 weeks ago saying that I had to pick the girls up at 7:30 am from now on because of her change in schedule. (no mention of her original suggestion)

Wrote her right back AGREEING! Now she wont start the schedule!!!!!! Come on! WHAT DO I DO?!?!?! I dont want to go to court! But I guess I have too............

 

[kygirl722]

Hang in there

You sound like a really careing concerned father who was so misunderstood in a few of your posts and got bashed for it. Don't feel lonely, I get bashed almost evertime I post.

Sounds like your ex needs to get a grip. I wish my daughters father cared what time she went to bed, I wish he cared what time she went to school, although he knows neither of these things. Hang in there! Never give up on the best interests of your children.