Refuses to give cell phone numer

[stealth2]

I honestly can not even read through your comment because it is way off of line from the first two sentences. Thank you for trying though.

Actually - the comments are very much on point and you would be wise to read/consider them. When you have a child with a partner you are no longer with, yielding some level of control is always part of the equation. That can be very difficult for the primary parent. You know where your child is all the time when he is in your care, and it is natural for you to want that to continue. But think what message you are sending to your child - his Dad, and by extension stepMom, are not really safe people for him to be with. You Need to have 24/7 access to make sure he is ok! And yes, that instant access really is what it's about - you started with "security reasons", but you yourself said that it's really about wanting to be able to get your son on the phone and tell him you love him. at any time every day. But he should be able to enjoy his time with Dad w/o having your anxiety to feed off of.

Trust me - many of us understand. BTDT myself. But just as it is a parent's job to keep their child safe, it is also their job to learn to loosen, then cut, the apron strings. You don't say how old Sparky is, but I am guessing < 5. Obviously, you're not sending him out into the world to fend for himself, but it is not too early for him to learn that both of his parents can care for him w/o interference fron the other. They will not parent him as you do, and that's okay.

 

[TammyMay]

Actually - the comments are very much on point and you would be wise to read/consider them. When you have a child with a partner you are no longer with, yielding some level of control is always part of the equation. That can be very difficult for the primary parent. You know where your child is all the time when he is in your care, and it is natural for you to want that to continue. But think what message you are sending to your child - his Dad, and by extension stepMom, are not really safe people for him to be with. You Need to have 24/7 access to make sure he is ok! And yes, that instant access really is what it's about - you started with "security reasons", but you yourself said that it's really about wanting to be able to get your son on the phone and tell him you love him. at any time every day. But he should be able to enjoy his time with Dad w/o having your anxiety to feed off of.

Trust me - many of us understand. BTDT myself. But just as it is a parent's job to keep their child safe, it is also their job to learn to loosen, then cut, the apron strings. You don't say how old Sparky is, but I am guessing < 5. Obviously, you're not sending him out into the world to fend for himself, but it is not too early for him to learn that both of his parents can care for him w/o interference fron the other. They will not parent him as you do, and that's okay.

Again, Thank you for your thoughts, opinions and insight. I appreciate it!

 

[TammyMay]

He just turned 5 .

 

[SueBee123]

Absolutely

Absolutely, I would want the cell phone number of the person who would be picking my child up and driving him/her in their car every day. What adult in charge of someone else's child like that would refuse the parent the cell phone contact? You have their child, for crud's sake. I don't blame you one bit. I think it's smart to need that cell number. I would be suspect if there was a big issue about giving me the number.
If she's afraid you'll abuse her cell phone # somehow, that's a risk she will have to take when she's in charge of YOUR child. If she really is worried about giving you her number, perhaps she isn't the best adult to be transporting your child.

What if she runs into an emergency while on the road with your child in the car?

You need that number.

 

[stealth2]

What if she runs into an emergency while on the road with your child in the car?

You need that number.

And how woyuld Mom's having the number help in that situation? Mom wouldn't know unless she got a call - right?

 

[Ohiogal]

Absolutely, I would want the cell phone number of the person who would be picking my child up and driving him/her in their car every day. What adult in charge of someone else's child like that would refuse the parent the cell phone contact? You have their child, for crud's sake. I don't blame you one bit. I think it's smart to need that cell number. I would be suspect if there was a big issue about giving me the number.
If she's afraid you'll abuse her cell phone # somehow, that's a risk she will have to take when she's in charge of YOUR child. If she really is worried about giving you her number, perhaps she isn't the best adult to be transporting your child.

What if she runs into an emergency while on the road with your child in the car?

You need that number.

Dad is the one in charge of junior. Dad can delegate to anyone. DAD's number is the one mom needs. NOT stepmom's. STEP MOM is a legal stranger. If stepmom runs into an emergency THREE STATES away from mom, she will call dad. Seriously.

 

[Isis1]

Absolutely, I would want the cell phone number of the person who would be picking my child up and driving him/her in their car every day. What adult in charge of someone else's child like that would refuse the parent the cell phone contact? You have their child, for crud's sake. I don't blame you one bit. I think it's smart to need that cell number. I would be suspect if there was a big issue about giving me the number.
If she's afraid you'll abuse her cell phone # somehow, that's a risk she will have to take when she's in charge of YOUR child. If she really is worried about giving you her number, perhaps she isn't the best adult to be transporting your child.

What if she runs into an emergency while on the road with your child in the car?

You need that number.

Sue, go sit down and take your meds. the courts will not order the cell phone number to be given. ever.

there is NOTHING mom can do three states away in the event of an emergency. the only reason i have teacher cell phone numbers is because they text me first. i leave my phone number everywhere.

leave the child alone. he'll be fine.

 

[Zigner]

What if the child takes a bus? It just blows the mind...cell phone numbers of every possible bus driver MUST be given!