leeleeblue
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If the father has sole custody, it's his decision where his child will live, end of story. If she's going to live with a French family and she's already learning the basics of French in her current school, it's safe to assume that she can do well if she tries. If she moves there and sits around reading American books and watching American TV, then she'll never succeed in learning the language. In my opinion, her not knowing fluent French is not a reason she should stay in the States and it doesn't mean it's in her best interest to do so. If her father and his girlfriend provide a safe and loving home, THAT is in the best interest of the child and it doesn't matter where she'll live. It's not as though NO ONE in France speaks English, she can always get a tutor and I highly doubt that the school will just allow her to sit there, not learning anything.
It has nothing to do with my being ignorant of the school system (and you may think calling me ignorant is some sort of jab, but everyone is ignorant in some way or another or they'd be know-it-alls
) it has to do with the desire (for her or anyone moving to another country) to learn the culture and the language and what's best for her. Should her father just leave her with her manipulative grandmother because she might not get into a university or get a great job right out of HS? If this woman and her family are already manipulating her it's probably in her best interest to get away from them. She is a minor, therefore she goes where her father says she goes, whether she, you or anyone else thinks it's a bad idea. If Acceptance goes, the father is sure to go with her. They are committed to each other and have a child and they make the decisions in their family, not the cousins, brothers, grandmothers or neighbors.
And, yes, you are still assuming that she won't do well and wind up begging for change as a mime in some French alley because she is not fluent, whether you believe that you are or not. For all anyone knows, she's an honor student and could learn the French language rather quickly.
It has nothing to do with my being ignorant of the school system (and you may think calling me ignorant is some sort of jab, but everyone is ignorant in some way or another or they'd be know-it-alls
) it has to do with the desire (for her or anyone moving to another country) to learn the culture and the language and what's best for her. Should her father just leave her with her manipulative grandmother because she might not get into a university or get a great job right out of HS? If this woman and her family are already manipulating her it's probably in her best interest to get away from them. She is a minor, therefore she goes where her father says she goes, whether she, you or anyone else thinks it's a bad idea. If Acceptance goes, the father is sure to go with her. They are committed to each other and have a child and they make the decisions in their family, not the cousins, brothers, grandmothers or neighbors.And, yes, you are still assuming that she won't do well and wind up begging for change as a mime in some French alley because she is not fluent, whether you believe that you are or not. For all anyone knows, she's an honor student and could learn the French language rather quickly.