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[stealth2]

The only thing that worries me there is having such young babies that it is gonna be even more traumatizing than it already is for them going to such an unfamiliar place. At least here they can see me and they know my mother.

But.... apparently they would be with their father. Who I would think that they know. Right? So why is sending them to Dad now an issue? I suspect that would be the best possible placement for them.

 

[AHA]

needhelpinnc,What have you been doing for the past YEAR while living with your mom???
No one goes to school 8+ hours a day 5 days a week, so you could have been having a part time job and some savings by now.
Maybe mom is fed up with having to support her ADULT daughter and 3 grandkids, so she decided to shake your world in order to wake you up and see the reality.

 

[Shay-Pari'e]

needhelpinnc,

What have you been doing for the past YEAR while living with your mom???
No one goes to school 8+ hours a day 5 days a week, so you could have been having a part time job and some savings by now.
Maybe mom is fed up with having to support her ADULT daughter and 3 grandkids, so she decided to shake your world in order to wake you up and see the reality.

She goes to school on Satuday only. She claims there is no one for daycare if she worked, yet she claims she found a sitter while leaving her kids for a week.

 

[LdiJ]

She goes to school on Satuday only. She claims there is no one for daycare if she worked, yet she claims she found a sitter while leaving her kids for a week.

Look...its very possible that she has been taking advantage of her mother....and that her mother decided that "enough is enough"....or that mom has not been being a good mom and her mother decided that "enough is enough". Its also possible that her mother decided for any number of reasons to attempt "engineer" custody for grandma....many of which might not reflect well on grandma.

However, the children do have a father and one way or another the father is going to be part of this equation.

 

[AHA]

She goes to school on Satuday only. She claims there is no one for daycare if she worked, yet she claims she found a sitter while leaving her kids for a week.

To get an education by going just 1 day a week will take forever, so OP better figure out another plan.

 

[needhelpinnc]

needhelpinnc,

What have you been doing for the past YEAR while living with your mom???
No one goes to school 8+ hours a day 5 days a week, so you could have been having a part time job and some savings by now.
Maybe mom is fed up with having to support her ADULT daughter and 3 grandkids, so she decided to shake your world in order to wake you up and see the reality.

The last year of my life has been spent at home with my kids. When I was pregnant with my son my doctor took me out of work because with everything with my seperation and my health he was afraid of a miscarriage. As far as work goes, my mom works off the wall hours and is an avid Jehovah's Witness who is very dedicated to going to church..or meetings as they call them. It's kinda hard to just pick up and start paying for daycare when you dont have a job to begin with and social services has not had any child care funding for the last year. And believe me. I had a lady from not only social services and the health dept. watching out for when funds became available on top of me calling as well. So yes, right now i go to school on Saturday mornings trying to at least do SOMETHING with myself. As far as getting a job goes I am clueless as to what to do until some kind of funding is available or my mom is able to help watch my kids. Once again, not trying to put them off on her but I'm backed into a corner here. No money = no daycare. That simple. Yes, my friend watched them while I was away. She has a life and ca't keep them while I work a full time job. And as far as why she didn't pick me up, She has no car either. She just lives around the corner. What else do you guys want from me here? I relize I was in the wrong. I know I need to fix things. I know I need parenting classes. And I will totally comply with CPS. I have no reason not to. I want my kids here with me. I want a life for all of us. I want to be the ideal TV mom with the ideal TV family. But reality is sometimes things get hard and I am just trying to figure out how to fix what I have caused here. I dont need bullying and pointing fingers on top of everything else here. I know I am wrong for goodness sake. All I was here for was to get Professional advice. Not advice on how to be a perfect mom. What else can i say?

 

[stealth2]

I'm still wondering why it would suddenly be too traumatic for the children to be with their father.

 

[LdiJ]

I'm still wondering why it would suddenly be too traumatic for the children to be with their father.

Well....dad does have some "issues"...but in general I agree. Perhaps grandma is exerting influence there.....after all this in an ongoing "saga" at the moment....mom and grandma could be communicating. In fact, it sounds to me like mom's change of heart could be due to communication with grandma.

 

[graybeard1952]

Originally posted by needhelpinnc:

All I was here for was to get Professional advice. Not advice on how to be a perfect mom. What else can i say?


Try the “Serenity Prayer”

God grant me the serenity
To accept the things I cannot change
Courage to change the things I can
And wisdom to know the difference

 

[Shay-Pari'e]

Look...its very possible that she has been taking advantage of her mother....and that her mother decided that "enough is enough"....or that mom has not been being a good mom and her mother decided that "enough is enough". Its also possible that her mother decided for any number of reasons to attempt "engineer" custody for grandma....many of which might not reflect well on grandma.

However, the children do have a father and one way or another the father is going to be part of this equation.

Look LdiJ, I have a opinion. I expressed mine. Your attempt to once again be the *Almighty Perfect One And Only Forum Member with a Opinion* doesn't work with me.

Did I make myself clear? I sure hope I did, because your history as a mother leaves alot to be desired as far as I am concerned.

 

[txrose1998]

The last year of my life has been spent at home with my kids. When I was pregnant with my son my doctor took me out of work because with everything with my seperation and my health he was afraid of a miscarriage. As far as work goes, my mom works off the wall hours and is an avid Jehovah's Witness who is very dedicated to going to church..or meetings as they call them. It's kinda hard to just pick up and start paying for daycare when you dont have a job to begin with and social services has not had any child care funding for the last year. And believe me. I had a lady from not only social services and the health dept. watching out for when funds became available on top of me calling as well. So yes, right now i go to school on Saturday mornings trying to at least do SOMETHING with myself. As far as getting a job goes I am clueless as to what to do until some kind of funding is available or my mom is able to help watch my kids. Once again, not trying to put them off on her but I'm backed into a corner here. No money = no daycare. That simple. Yes, my friend watched them while I was away. She has a life and ca't keep them while I work a full time job. And as far as why she didn't pick me up, She has no car either. She just lives around the corner. What else do you guys want from me here? I relize I was in the wrong. I know I need to fix things. I know I need parenting classes. And I will totally comply with CPS. I have no reason not to. I want my kids here with me. I want a life for all of us. I want to be the ideal TV mom with the ideal TV family. But reality is sometimes things get hard and I am just trying to figure out how to fix what I have caused here. I dont need bullying and pointing fingers on top of everything else here. I know I am wrong for goodness sake. All I was here for was to get Professional advice. Not advice on how to be a perfect mom. What else can i say?

Look, a lot of us here have been through rough times! Yet most of us have gotten up of our butts and worked at any job available! YOu have friends and a mother apparently, I am sure between these people they could work around watching your kids while you worked instead of waiting for the government and us working people to help you. You can find a job to work around your mother's job and trade off with each other. Work the midnight shift at a 24 hr diner if you have to! BUT TAKE CARE OF YOUR KIDS!!

 

[stealth2]

Look LdiJ, I have a opinion. I expressed mine. Your attempt to once again be the *Almighty Perfect One And Only Forum Member with a Opinion* doesn't work

*snort*

 

[needhelpinnc]

I'm still wondering why it would suddenly be too traumatic for the children to be with their father.

This care from talking to one of my workers today from the health dept. She seems to think that keeping the kids in the same environment would be healthier but at the same time if Dad wants them I don't want to tell him no either. I know he needs time with his kids as well.