What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? MS
Good morning all!
I'm having an issue with the crazy ex about transportation.
Back in 2007, when the ex moved to Pensacola (2 hours away), she started the kids more often, and my wife offered to her to meet her in Mobile (1/2 way.) Part of their agreement was that as long as my wife was able to meet her, she would, but that if my wife had a conflict, ex would have to come and get them. Ex said she was fine with that.
Well, until now, there's not been a problem, and my wife has always been able to meet her.
Ex is getting the kids this Friday to start her summer visitation. She and my wife had agreed to meet in Mobile Friday evening at 5:30.
My wife found out last night that her daughter's dad needs to come pick up her daughter that afternoon at 5:00 as they are leaving to go out of town. My step-daughter recently had her meds changed (new meds added, and dosages of other meds changed), and my wife needs to be here to go over all of it with her ex-husband and explain the new dosing schedule to him. The new dosing schedule is pretty confusing.
Normally my wife would have just offered to meet my ex a little later, but we have a family member's graduation to attend at 7:00 here in our town.
So my wife emailed my ex last night and said: I am so sorry to do this to you, but I'm not going to be able to meet you in Mobile this Friday. I need to be here when M's dad comes to get her, and then I have a graduation to attend. The kids will be ready to go at 4:30. Let me know if that time is ok. Thanks.
So the ex emails my wife back with: I see what you are trying to do, and its not going to work. You can't keep me from seeing MY kids!!!! The kids better be in Mobile at 5:30 as previously agreed!
So my wife emailed her back and said: I'm sorry you feel that way, but that certainly isn't the case. No one is trying to keep the kids from you. I'm just not able to meet you this time due to other obligations. When I originally made the offer to meet you 1/2 way, that was to try and make things easier on you, and you and I had an agreement that if I ever had a scheduling conflict, you would come over and pick the kids up.
The ex answered with: All I can tell you is that MY kids better be in Mobile this Friday. If I have to come all the way to MS to pick them up, the Sheriff's Department will be called and will show up with me. If they are not in Mobile, I will be holding you and 2M in contempt. You've set the status quo that you meet me 1/2 way, so now you have to. I'll see you in Mobile or at your house, with a deputy in tow.
My wife has not responded. I think she and I both are at a loss for words.
A few facts:
1. My ex is back and forth between FL, MI, and TX with her boyfriend, so her visitation since 2007 has been sporadic. Until now, my wife was able to meet her on the few times that ex has wanted to get the kids.
2. The order does not say anything about responsibility of transportation, and my ex is the 1 who created the distance.
3. My wife is kinda sorta a party to our order, but I don't think it obligates her to do anything. It gives her rights to do certain things such as seek medical treatment for the kids, register them for school, make medical, educational, etc. decisions in the event that me or my ex isn't available. It is an exhibit attached to the order that the ex and I both signed. It was the ex's idea at the time.
A few questions:
1. If the SD is called to our house by my ex, what are they likely to do? The kids will be here, ready to go, so I'm not sure what her reason for calling them would be or what she would be trying to accomplish.
2. IF the ex files for contempt, can she file against my wife? Can the judge mandate that my wife has to meet her 1/2 way since she's been doing it? Can I be held in contempt for this? This was an informal agreement between the wife and the ex. I'm working that day, so I'm not able to take the kids to Mobile to meet 1/2 way.
Good morning all!
I'm having an issue with the crazy ex about transportation.
Back in 2007, when the ex moved to Pensacola (2 hours away), she started the kids more often, and my wife offered to her to meet her in Mobile (1/2 way.) Part of their agreement was that as long as my wife was able to meet her, she would, but that if my wife had a conflict, ex would have to come and get them. Ex said she was fine with that.
Well, until now, there's not been a problem, and my wife has always been able to meet her.
Ex is getting the kids this Friday to start her summer visitation. She and my wife had agreed to meet in Mobile Friday evening at 5:30.
My wife found out last night that her daughter's dad needs to come pick up her daughter that afternoon at 5:00 as they are leaving to go out of town. My step-daughter recently had her meds changed (new meds added, and dosages of other meds changed), and my wife needs to be here to go over all of it with her ex-husband and explain the new dosing schedule to him. The new dosing schedule is pretty confusing.
Normally my wife would have just offered to meet my ex a little later, but we have a family member's graduation to attend at 7:00 here in our town.
So my wife emailed my ex last night and said: I am so sorry to do this to you, but I'm not going to be able to meet you in Mobile this Friday. I need to be here when M's dad comes to get her, and then I have a graduation to attend. The kids will be ready to go at 4:30. Let me know if that time is ok. Thanks.
So the ex emails my wife back with: I see what you are trying to do, and its not going to work. You can't keep me from seeing MY kids!!!! The kids better be in Mobile at 5:30 as previously agreed!
So my wife emailed her back and said: I'm sorry you feel that way, but that certainly isn't the case. No one is trying to keep the kids from you. I'm just not able to meet you this time due to other obligations. When I originally made the offer to meet you 1/2 way, that was to try and make things easier on you, and you and I had an agreement that if I ever had a scheduling conflict, you would come over and pick the kids up.
The ex answered with: All I can tell you is that MY kids better be in Mobile this Friday. If I have to come all the way to MS to pick them up, the Sheriff's Department will be called and will show up with me. If they are not in Mobile, I will be holding you and 2M in contempt. You've set the status quo that you meet me 1/2 way, so now you have to. I'll see you in Mobile or at your house, with a deputy in tow.
My wife has not responded. I think she and I both are at a loss for words.
A few facts:
1. My ex is back and forth between FL, MI, and TX with her boyfriend, so her visitation since 2007 has been sporadic. Until now, my wife was able to meet her on the few times that ex has wanted to get the kids.
2. The order does not say anything about responsibility of transportation, and my ex is the 1 who created the distance.
3. My wife is kinda sorta a party to our order, but I don't think it obligates her to do anything. It gives her rights to do certain things such as seek medical treatment for the kids, register them for school, make medical, educational, etc. decisions in the event that me or my ex isn't available. It is an exhibit attached to the order that the ex and I both signed. It was the ex's idea at the time.
A few questions:
1. If the SD is called to our house by my ex, what are they likely to do? The kids will be here, ready to go, so I'm not sure what her reason for calling them would be or what she would be trying to accomplish.
2. IF the ex files for contempt, can she file against my wife? Can the judge mandate that my wife has to meet her 1/2 way since she's been doing it? Can I be held in contempt for this? This was an informal agreement between the wife and the ex. I'm working that day, so I'm not able to take the kids to Mobile to meet 1/2 way.