that’s great advise. I don’t threaten her and haven’t with anything. I either ignore it or let her finish bantering/ threatening me and approach when things cool off. I’ll have to look into specific statute of limitations. There is a lot of advice I’ve received and I thank you for arming me. I’m more informed and feeling better about this situation than I was before I posted. Thank you.The statute of limitation for law enforcement to address her possible blackmail of you is most likely 3 years. When or if to raise the issue is better discussed with counsel. But I sure would keep detailed safe records of all her threats that might be under any sort of blackmail umbrella ...look up the CA definitions .
BTW , whatever rip off of the system she may be making , do NOT get into a new blackmail boat by making threats to report same to anybody unless she does x or y