What can be done??

[stealth2]

Don't be sorry - it's unclear what she actually means. But... unless she can actually prove her allegations, she's got nothing.

 

[Mbarr77]

Don't be sorry - it's unclear what she actually means. But... unless she can actually prove her allegations, she's got nothing.

I agree with ya on that one!

 

[LostCause]

Okay, let get off the high horse regarding me WANTING custody..
That is not the issue being addressed.

MY DAUGHTER CAME TO ME UPSET REGARDING THAT HER FATHER WAS NAKED A FEW TIMES IN BED WITH HER! this is my concern, she is uncomfortable with this.. This BEHAVIOR on the father's part what never done the WHOLE 11 YEARS we were married.

I don't want nor am I asking that the custody be changed, but if this affects the well being of my children, then I need to step up...
Shoot me for protecting my children.

Yes, it can be proven because of the statements from ALL three children and the father's own mother.. Who, by the way, all has addressed this behavior with him. She sees him in the underwear in front of the kids also.
Also, I have 3 former babysitters, that also complained at one time to be his inappropriate behavior in front of them. Their ages are 14,16 & 17.

Can we ISSUES on the fathes part????

Now, let's get off the subject of the "evil ex-wife" trying to get custody of the kids and I'm out to get dirt on him... Grow up and quite judging someone you don't know.

All I wanted to know if this is serious enough (hours being left alone and inappropriate nudity/exposure) to get DCFS involved.. Or does this happen all the time all over the world and it's acceptable

 

[Mbarr77]

Okay, let get off the high horse regarding me WANTING custody..
That is not the issue being addressed.

MY DAUGHTER CAME TO ME UPSET REGARDING THAT HER FATHER WAS NAKED A FEW TIMES IN BED WITH HER! this is my concern, she is uncomfortable with this.. This BEHAVIOR on the father's part what never done the WHOLE 11 YEARS we were married.

I don't want nor am I asking that the custody be changed, but if this affects the well being of my children, then I need to step up...
Shoot me for protecting my children.

Yes, it can be proven because of the statements from ALL three children and the father's own mother.. Who, by the way, all has addressed this behavior with him. She sees him in the underwear in front of the kids also.
Also, I have 3 former babysitters, that also complained at one time to be his inappropriate behavior in front of them. Their ages are 14,16 & 17.

This is not necessarily what a court would consider proof..it is their word against his!

Can we ISSUES on the fathes part????

Now, let's get off the subject of the "evil ex-wife" trying to get custody of the kids and I'm out to get dirt on him... Grow up and quite judging someone you don't know.

All I wanted to know if this is serious enough (hours being left alone and inappropriate nudity/exposure) to get DCFS involved.. Or does this happen all the time all over the world and it's acceptable

You can always call DCFS if you want, but I really do not see how they will be able to proove it is happening. Unless they show up in the middle of the night while he is sleeping! All they would be able to do is question the kids, in my opinion.

 

[davisracing48]

Okay, thank you...

How about being left alone?

 

[stealth2]

Okay, thank you...

How about being left alone?

Can you prove it? Without dragging the kids into court.

 

[stealth2]

And why are you using two different handles?

 

[stealth2]

If you really think his mother will testify against him in court, you have another think coming.

As for the sitters - interesting how only now do you think that's relavant info.

 

[davisracing48]

The kids being left alone, yes!

I have had to send my cousin over to the house a few times because
I was on the phone with the children when there was no adults there.
So her affidavit and testimonies should do it, because I asked her to stay with them until he returned..

 

[stealth2]

So then the kids weren't alone. Did it occur to you to call the cops at the time? Seriously, woman - start thinking here.

 

[davisracing48]

There are two of us using this computer and I didn't make her sign off before
I did my post.

If I need to clarify myself.

 

[davisracing48]

If you really think his mother will testify against him in court, you have another think coming.

As for the sitters - interesting how only now do you think that's relavant info.

I thought this was an isolated incident... It happened when the oldest was 2 years old.

 

[davisracing48]

So then the kids weren't alone. Did it occur to you to call the cops at the time? Seriously, woman - start thinking here.

The kids WERE left alone until I called my cousin, who lives a couple streets over. Who knows for how long they were only unitl I called my cousin.

 

[Mbarr77]

The kids being left alone, yes!

I have had to send my cousin over to the house a few times because
I was on the phone with the children when there was no adults there.
So her affidavit and testimonies should do it, because I asked her to stay with them until he returned..

Illinois is one of the states that actually have legislation in regards to leaving children alone. They have several guidelines that they go by. I have pasted them below.

What is lack of supervision?
Illinois law defines a neglected minor, in part, as “any minor under the age of 14 years whose parent or other person responsible for the minor’s welfare leaves the minor without supervision for an unreasonable period of time without regard for the mental or physical health, safety or welfare of that minor.”
Juvenile Court Act, 705 ILCS 405/2-3(1)(d)

1. the age of the minor
2. the number of minors left at the location
3. special needs of the minor, including whether the minor is physically or mentally handicapped, or otherwise in need of ongoing prescribed medical treatment such as periodic dosages of insulin or other medications
4. the duration of time in which the minor was left without supervision
5. the condition and location of the place where the child was left without supervision
6. the time of day or night when the minor was left without supervision
7. the weather conditions, including whether the minor was left in a location with adequate protection from the natural elements such as adequate heat or light
8. the location of the parent or guardian at the time the minor was left without supervision, the physical distance the minor was from the parent or guardian at the time the minor was without supervision
9. whether the minor’s movement was restricted, or the minor was otherwise locked within a room or other structure
10. whether the minor was given a phone number of a person or location to call in the event of an emergency and whether the minor was capable of making an emergency call
11. whether there was food and other provision left for the minor
12. whether any of the conduct is attributable to economic hardship or illness and the parent, guardian or other person having physical custody or control of the child made a good faith effort to provide for the health and safety of the minor
13. the age and physical and mental capabilities of the person(s) who provided supervision for the minor
14. whether the minor was left under the supervision of another person
15. any other factor that would endanger the health and safety of that particular minor


But, keep in mind you have to be able to prove this. ANd your cousins affadavit may not be enough, because often courts consider family members to be biased, and are therefore not always enough. They would prefer someone that is unbiased and has no stake in the case, such as a police officer, etc.

 

[stealth2]

The kids WERE left alone until I called my cousin, who lives a couple streets over. Who knows for how long they were only unitl I called my cousin.

And you need to prove how long it was.