What can be done??

[davisracing48]

Go back and read this thread, someone answered this question about DCS. They will look at what THEY think is best for the children. So they may very well say that dad can't do this and take the children out of the home at which time they may also look at your situation and say they can't stay with you either and place them in a foster home.

Getting DCS involved would be very risky on your part unless you think the children are in danger of being harmed physically, from what you have said you dont think this is likely to be the case so I would suggest NOT getting them involved.

Now if custody were to switch hands and the ex pressed the issue then yes your current living situation would be a problem and you would probably be forced to move.

Now, was that so hard to answer without judging someone...
I appreciate that feedback... You are right, then if it was pressed by DCFS to
alter my living arrangement or put my kids into foster care, then some choices and decisions would have to be made. Believe me, I don't want my kids to be with anyone but us... I just want the behavior to stop, that is all!


Again, THANK YOU

 

[AHA]

AGAIN, here we go with the assumptions!

NOT ONE TIME IN MY POSTS DID I ACCUSE HIM OF SEXUAL ABUSE OF ANY SORT!

AGAIN, NO MAN (father, brother, uncle, grandfather, friend...) should be exposing themselves to a SIX YEAR OLD LITTLE GIRL!

This happened MORE THAN ONCE! Did you ever stop to think that my daughter was truely upset about it on her own?

Just like kissing boys at that age, do we them it's ucky? nope, because then how do we explain to them that kissing their father, brother, uncle or grandfather or friends is ucky? They learn this from their peers!

See you are judging.... my daughter DOES NOT know about my abused past.
She is to young for me to go into detail about it.... however.....

I have told ALL THREE of my children that they are not allowed to have ANYONE, other than myself and their doctor (for the purpose of cleaning and infections), to touch them in their private areas. If that is what you proceed to be that I prepped her to be deathly afaid of men, your WRONG!

So if you think it's okay for your better half to prance around nude in front of your minor children, I would say that there are whole of people who would feel you both have "major issues" and it's a "sick thing". But hey, what ever....

Ok, lady, you need to accuse yourself of making assumptions because no where in my post did I say that it's ok for an adult to touch kid's private parts, come on!!!

Just because the man you chose to have kids with sleeps naked does not mean that he'll grope his daughter.

I also never said that it's ok for an adult to "prance around naked", who is making assumptions here???
If you think that people here are supporting child molestors than you need to step back and re read every single thread that has to do with kids, because you are letting your imagination run wild.

Your actions about nudity is what is going to create how your kids are going to feel about nudity for the rest of their lives.
Not every man out there gets off on little kids private parts.

I'm sorry if you think it is sick to by accident see your parent naked (sleeping in bed, getting out of the shower, dressing in the bedroom/bathroom etc etc) in the privacy of their own home, that's your right. I don't see that as sick.
And just to make it clear, I did NOT just say "prancing around nude swinging their johnson in their kid's face and grabbing the kids between the legs".

It has no relevance, but I don't think it's healthy to raise your kids in thinking that a naked body is a sin and something terrible and should be avoided at all costs for the rest of their lives. I would put more importance into raising them to have decent values, morals, know right from wrong, stay away from drugs, guns and any criminal activities than to be afraid of ever seeing a naked body. And also be more careful in choosing the adults that my kids are around to ensure that they are safe.

You are making assumptions that I am FOR child sex abuse and for that you should be ashamed of yourself!!!!!

 

[Rushia]

I'm sorry but this doesn't add up. The child is uncomfortable seeing dad naked, yet she keeps climbing into bed with him? She is so uncomfortable that she makes a big deal out of it to mom? Somehow, I think mom is making a mountain out of a molehill. I have a six year old child and he knows to knock on the door if it is closed (not locked, just closed). Six year olds are able to learn these things (even if they are half asleep). I agree with AHA, mom is the one with the issue.

 

[stealth2]

I have told ALL THREE of my children that they are not allowed to have ANYONE, other than myself and their doctor (for the purpose of cleaning and infections), to touch them in their private areas. If that is what you proceed to be that I prepped her to be deathly afaid of men, your WRONG!

Why is it okay for YOU to touch their private areas for cleaning and infection, but not for their father (the custodial parent) to do so? Especially wrt the boys?

 

[Susan MacLove]

ok. Daughter is 6, gets scared sleeping alone, wants to climb in with Dad. Dad is adult, know this, yet sleeps naked. Apparently makes no attempt to cover when daughter comes in to bed.

Dad goes about in underwear in front of children.

Obviously, according to the legal eagles here, this may not been seen as an issue for a judge.

But, I think you are correct in being concerned. Abuse starts like this. Yeah, you can all scream she is paranoid, a prude, etc, but my radar is out on this one.

If you can't get legal help, get counseling. If something weird is going on kids might tell the counselor who will be able to document it.

Dad is not going to stop cos you say so, he is just going to make the kids feel bad for telling you.