Well since this has turned into a lets bash the person trying to get help session. For the record. I make more money then he does and it is MY house. I do not need him for financial security. It is easier for us to live together. He could afford a little apartment but it wouldn't be large enough to PROPERLY take care of his children in.I'm more concerned that chickie here cares more about her financial security then about her BF getting court martialed and dishonorably discharged because she doesn't want to find someplace else to live. Seriously, what were either of them thinking? Obviously they did not think it through. She has an excuse for not knowing how the military feels about adultery, but HE doesn't!
His ex deserted him. She left with the kids and moved to a different state for whatever reason she thought might sound logical. Regardless of what any of you might think, I do understand the severity of the situation when it comes to the military. The only feedback that has ever come from the military was good riddance and thank god you are finally away from her. This came from the commanding officer of the armory he was assigned to.
This series of posts has covered a few hours now and a lot can be done in that amount of time. How me asking if he can keep the kids because of how they live and are when we get them. Sadly, the purpose of this was forgotten and its turned into a bashing session. Very nonproductive if you ask me. It might be a bit more beneficial to anyone else some of you assist to stick with the questions and matter at hand rather then go off on your little rabbit trails and nitpick the things that you tell people they should just leave out!
I did get some good information from this and I appreciate that, and I know that I asked for help and any information used is information that I willingly gave, but, if you are here to help then maybe find a better way of getting your point across then belittling the people that ask for assistance. I, personally, can not imagine someone coming into the homeless shelter I work for and responding to them in the manner most of you have me. It is tactless and without all the necessary information useless. None of you have the full story or know our full situation. You have taken parts here and there and attacked those rather then look at the matter with all the information given. My purpose here was to help make sure children do not have to live in poor conditions with a neglectful parent. You are all overly concerned with adultery but only basing it on his side of the situation, not both sides. She happens to be pregnant by a man that is NOT her husband. That ought to go over well in court also.
Goodbye and I definitely will NOT be coming back to this site thanks to this experience.