So did your dear guy ever establish paternity and get a court order for custody/visitation or support?
He's on the birth certificate and she's not denying it.
So why didn't dad teach his child his ABCs? Why didnt' dad make sure the children go to school completely and totally? Why didn't dad do anything to prevent the youngest from FAILING kindergarten?
Because after they separated, he was living with people that he did not feel it was safe to have the children around. He would take them places, but nowhere conducive to education. When he was finally living on his, he would keep them more regularly, but he also has dyslexia and struggles with that. He also lived too far away to be involved daily in their lives. She worked until late so it was the significant other who took care of the kids, much like in our case now. Only I do not abuse them.
Really? And you know this because you have a medical background and you have access to mom's home AND you are clinically trained and able to diagnose someone?
No, but we've taken him to the doctor and had him in our care and know what to look for according to the doctor's instructions. We also have the old medical records showing how much medication he was prescribed.
Do you know how to properly restrain someone? Oh and now we know how the fingernail marks got on the child's head. HE PUT THEM THERE. As for the comment "our family counselor" -- who does this counselor treat? The entire family? IF so that is a conflict.
I shouldn't rise, but I am anyway.
I'm fairly certain one would not restrain a child from hitting himself in the head by grabbing their head. Generally, you would hold their arms to their side.
And yes, the counselor treated the entire family and individually.
OH really? So has the child received a mental health diagnosis?
Yes. We sought psych evals within a few months of them being in our care. The oldest's results were inconclusive, but showed OD tendancies. The youngest's results showed combined ADHD, developmental dyslexia and a host of other learning disabilities. His current psychiatrist suggests that we retest now that he's been in a more stable and helpful environment.
YOU put together? YOU HAVE NOTHING TO DO WITH THIS? You are nothing to this situation. Except a troublemaking, over stepping BUD.
Legally, you're right. Outside of that, I am their parent in all ways, more than any of the others including my fiance. I am the one who completes any school paperwork, takes them to any medical visits (on my insurance by claiming domestic partner), volunteers at school, discusses any behavior issues with the teachers, attends school functions, coordinates their playdates, takes them to and from school, helps with their homework, cooks their dinner and provides anything else they need. Their father works late like their mother so if I didn't do it, it wouldn't get done, like what happened when they lived with her. Is it ideal? No, but it's what it is.
We have been together 2.5 years. The boys have lived with us 1 yr and 8 mos. We're getting married next Spring. She's been with her significant other for 4.5 years.
HOW DARE YOU. HOW FRICKING DARE YOU, YOU SEX TOY BED PARTNER BLOW UP DOLL EQUIVALENT. You are NO BODY LEGALLY to these children. You are not their mom and you are not their dad and you have NO RIGHT to ask them any such thing.
I asked because their mom said to tell her when they tell us they wanted to see her. I've already covered you're other outburst. No need to rehash.