fairisfair
Senior Member
she may be right, I am in AZ and only cash assistance (TANF) is assigned repayment through child support.can you link us to those welfare guidelines please
https://www.azdes.gov/dcse/pdf/epamphlet/CSE1052A.pdf
she may be right, I am in AZ and only cash assistance (TANF) is assigned repayment through child support.can you link us to those welfare guidelines please
I stand (or rather sit) corrected. But I did have disclaimers!And more than likely, if you & the child will be on Medicaid or any other state support (TANF, food stamps, etc) the information will have to be provided and proved by DNA testing, etc. IIRC, that's federal law, not state law.
not right off hand, and I didn't find the info on their website, but these guys knowanyone know if thats the case in Georgia right off hand?
So you are educated! Congrats. But if pell grants are not taxable they are not income. And the fact that you are in school is a choice. Plain and simple.i already did that...surprisingly, they couldn't answer my question...even my caseworker couldn't
Well, a few things to keep in mind ....If I seem selfish or controlling by not wanting him to have time with the baby is because I've seen what he's really like, the side I didn't get to know until after the pregnant? Have you seen that...NO! So please don't tell me I'm selfish and he deserves part of his child's life just because he's the father....in a lot of cases, the biological father is nothing more than a sperm donor....and so far that's what he's been in this one....
I know you're only 19 and still a child. And I know that you're scared and stuff... so consider this life lesson a freebie for the youngsters. (And damn, now I feel old)Well OG answer me this question: How in the HECK am I supposed to get a GOOD job and support my child if I don't get educated...yeah I made the choice to go to school, not just for me but for my child....
Well, that is true. There is no other way to get to the bottom of things than to dig. But, you know, judges don't always dig, either. If you aren't forthcoming or make your case, the judge can only go by what he has. He doesn't have a crystal ball. Being a family court judge has got to be very hard. It's not like either of you has committed a crime and yet the judge is placed in the position of cleaning up the mess you two made (and I'm not picking on you -- a judge has had to clean up the mess I made with my ex, too ).I don't mean to come across as ungrateful, I guess being picked apart is frustrating, but there again, I will have to go through this if my case goes to court.
That is normal for a pregnant woman. Heck, I even had dreams that made me worry about things that were really a little far fetched. Hormones do that to you and it's all for a good reason. That doesn't mean that you are the better parent - technically neither of you is a parent yet. The child isn't here yet -- you have no idea how he will be when the child gets here. You can deal with that then. In the meantime, focus on what YOU need to do to be a good mother and, like CJane said, going to school may have to wait or fit in around providing for your child via a FT job. You are still very very young and lots of time to finish your education .No, technically I'm not a mom yet, but I worry day to day about my child and he's not even here yet...I'm making changes in my life to support my child when he does come into the world, and yet (yes, I know this for a fact) my ex is doing NOTHING.
Do you think anyone really knows you? We only know what little you've shared here. Have no idea how charity-minded you are and that sort of thing. Don't let feedback on this area of your life size up what kind of person you are as a whole.... I guess now I just feel like no one likes me here.
The point is you cannot criticize daddy for not having a job and income when you don't. Plain and simple. The point is you have a legal obligation to financially support your child. No one else but the parents is legally obligated to provide financial support.Well OG answer me this question: How in the HECK am I supposed to get a GOOD job and support my child if I don't get educated...yeah I made the choice to go to school, not just for me but for my child....
Okay then we sugarcoat everything and when you get to court and are torn apart by the judge (if pro se on both sides) or the other attorney, feel free to start crying about how mean they are. YOU are on trial however. Why? Because you are trying to put your ex on trial for all of his choices. Everytime you criticize him and tear him apart for not being perfect, expect someone to do that to you. Your arguments are weak and not going to get you anywhere.I came to this forum for legal help yes...not to be torn down like I'm some kind of dilapidated building or something. I appreciate the help, and I understand you want me to see what I'd go through in court, but one thing you need to remember: THIS IS NOT A COURTROOM AND I AM NOT ON TRIAL!!
About that, YOU are the only one who is legally a parent. he has NO idea about this pregnancy and what it is doing to you. He has never felt, seen or been connected to this child and to him the child is NOT real. And she/he won't be real UNTIL she/he is born. And until he is legally adjudicated the father he is not.I know I will be a good mother to my child because I'm trying....that's a whole lot more than I can say for the father...
And quite frankly YOU could have had an abortion. And the word is "accepted" not "excepted". And you are the only one who has a physical responsibility to this child because this child is ONLY in YOUR womb. he doesn't have a womb.yes I got myself in this situation by sleeping with him, but at least ONE of us excepted it and made motions to provide, otherwise this child wouldn't have a snowball's chance in hell of making it!!
Yep you are being selfish and controlling and quite frankly the court is not going to care for your excuses. They will care if dad decides he wants visitation and you are using these EXCUSES as to why he should not be involved.If I seem selfish or controlling by not wanting him to have time with the baby is because I've seen what he's really like, the side I didn't get to know until after the pregnant?
DAMNIT. You need to grow up and wrap your mind around the legalities of this situation. Until you decide to put aside your childish behavior you are going to get fried in court. HE IS NOT LEGALLY A PART OF THIS CHILD's LIFE! He has NO RESPONSIBILITy to the child or to YOU. YOU are the only one with ANY responsibilities legally at this point.Have you seen that...NO! So please don't tell me I'm selfish and he deserves part of his child's life just because he's the father....in a lot of cases, the biological father is nothing more than a sperm donor....and so far that's what he's been in this one....
And you need to realize that you still don't have a case. We approach based on the facts offered. We are not mind readers. Are you going to whine to the court when he is given joint legal custody and visitation every other weekend and half the summer that they don't know all the facts? Whose fault is that? OH YEAH! YOURS. SO quit your whining. Quit your crying. And start presenting what facts you believe are relevant.So please, don't judge me because you don't know the whole situation, there's more to it than you realize,
Legally I don't care how old you are, how immature you are or how naive. I don't. Controlling will bite you big time. The judge is NOT going to walk in your shoes. The judge is going to look at the law, apply it and give daddy if he asks for it visitation and most likely joint custody. That is a legal reality. As for choices, YOU need to realize that you made a choice when you slept with him and you are stuck with that choice for the rest of your life. Try reading my signature. And take it to heart. I never said I was going to be gentle. I warned you I was going to fry you. And I also said I was going to try to help. And guess what -- I have done it. Now LEARN! Show you have a brain and learn from what you are being told here. And yes LD I know I am being harsh.so before you make up your mind that I'm young, naieve, and immature, and controlling, and whateverelse you want to or already have called me, try walking in my shoes for a change and living in my situation, THEN make your choices....