ConcerndStepmom said:
LOL Taking a POLL.. seeings how it appears I have stepped on alot of toes..lol
How many of you that responded to my post are the PRIMARY RESIDENTIAL PARENT Mother and NON Custodial Parents Fathers???
Thanks again for all of YOUR opinions. In fact I did get a good laugh out of it and so did MY HUSBAND The NON CUSTODIAL PARENT..
KEEP PREACHING THE GOSPEL !!
I was married to a non-custodial parent, so I have been there. Not only was I the STEP mother to HIS biological child, I was also the step mom to his child's older sibling. I have also had the step children live with ME for extended periods of time. I say ME because my ex husband was out of town working for MONTHS at a time. Even when I was the ONLY "parent" raising the children for months on end, I NEVER tried to replace their MOTHER. I also never referred to her as their BIO mom.
I also made sure that my ex continued the $1000 a month child support payment. Since he was gone so much because of his line of work, I knew there was very little chance for him to get legal custody of his child and NO CHANCE of either of us getting legal custody of the older child. It was well worth $1K a month to make sure the kids were taken care of.
I spent a lot of time biting my tongue, but it was not in the CHILDREN'S BEST INTERESTS to do otherwise. Their mother went through a period where she was MUCH, MUCH worse then your husband's ex has even thought about being. Not once did I ever expect to be patted on the back for going above and beyond the call of duty for a step parent.
I'm now friends with mom and still involved with the kids, even though I'm no longer married to the father. I never tried to make myself any more then a STEP parent. The kids and their mother still introduce me as their "other mom".
I am now the ONLY parent to my own 2 children, so I am very well aware of what an UNFIT parent really is. Your husband's ex may not win mother of the year, but she is far from being unfit.
You haven't stepped on MY toes. You are stepping on the MOTHER'S toes and I doubt that you will like the consequences if you continue.