change in visitation or a custody modification??

[ConcerndStepmom]

All hubby's lawyer kept saying was . "Why do you want to do that when you will get her on the flip side" Speaking of the youngest step daughter that he had the DNA test done, but fought to remain her legal father. She is 19 months now. She denied visitation for over 5 months. She filed a false domestic violence. She was found in contempt of court but due to her lawyer taking the blame that got thrown out. She was inform by 2 different judges and one magistrate 4 times of what was court ordered. She refused to comply until the final judgement. But got her hand slapped everytime.

They have been to court 5 times over the same crap. Both parties are to strictly comply with the standard model.
You all know you can't file papers one day and in court the next it takes time.

You all claim I am whining over this? I just simply ask questions and let you all know what's going on NOW. These are not only questions that we have asked but questions that the SCHOOL, the TEACHER, the DOCTORS and the PSYCHIATRIST (oldest SD's counselor) has ask.

WHERE IS MOM AND WHY ISN'T SHE INVOLVED??????

Oldest SD had behavioral issues at school all through out the year, the one and only conference that she (the mother) showed up for, these issues were addressed. The teacher and school counselor addressed their concerns. The mother said she was going to take her to see a psychiatrist. She did the very first time the evaluation to see whom they were going to place her with. Mother has not taken her to anymore. Hubby or myself has, the couselor has asked questions that only the mother could answer because she is the one that filled out the paper work. For instance: The counselor ask a question about oldest SD hitting young SD for no reason. Hubby responded and said that she doesn't do that at our house and the counselor asked me the same question and I told him that I have never seen her hit anyone not even including my own kids. This is not the same councelor that mother seen the first time that took the intake. Counselor said that mother stated on the paper work that Mother said she thought her daughter was acting out because she was lacking attention from her father. And Hubby explained to him that of what happened last year her denying visitation. And that during this school year that has just ended that he only got visitation to his daughter every other weekend and one day during the week. That he did spend alot of time at school volunteering in her classroom and fieldtrips and so forth to have that extra time with her. But his daughter would see him every morning when he went to pick his younger daughter to exercise back up care while she had to go to school daycare per mother's request NOT his.

ALL BS aside.... If in fact there are problems arising with SD it's NOT because of ME as you all MIGHT see it (the JEALOUS STEP MOM) being so involved in SD's life providing the love and support she needs, IT will NOT be Father's fault for the lack of not trying. OUR two faces are the ones that SD's see. WE are the TWO that spends the most physical QUALITY time with both girls.

Again HOW am I a JEALOUS STEP MOTHER? splain lucy...

 

[LdiJ]

Go back and look for my previous post.

 

[Noelle_71]

Again HOW am I a JEALOUS STEP MOTHER? splain lucy...[/QUOTE]

This is like Springer.
If you weren't jealous you wouldn't be ragging on mom so much.
If you weren't jealous you wouldn't be looking for a pat on the back.
What was your question, I don't think I every really saw one.

 

[ConcerndStepmom]

Again HOW am I a JEALOUS STEP MOTHER? splain lucy...

This is like Springer.
If you weren't jealous you wouldn't be ragging on mom so much.
If you weren't jealous you wouldn't be looking for a pat on the back.
What was your question, I don't think I every really saw one.[/QUOTE]

Don't you have your own thread to handle? Don't you have back child support to collect? Don't you have another country to flee too? lol yes I can read..

 

[stealth2]

Would you people PLEASE learn how the quote function works? It's not really that hard.

 

[ConcerndStepmom]

Would you people PLEASE learn how the quote function works? It's not really that hard.

lol you really need to get a life. I clicked the quote icon at the bottom of her response. Just as well I just did yours. Can't get much more complicated than that can it.. I am sure once she reads she will know that it was directed to her.

 

[CuriuosINpa]

Just curious

Is anything being solved in this thread?

 

[stealth2]

lol you really need to get a life. I clicked the quote icon at the bottom of her response. Just as well I just did yours. Can't get much more complicated than that can it.. I am sure once she reads she will know that it was directed to her.

Sweetpea - go read back on the posts all y'all "quoted".

 

[Noelle_71]

Don't you have your own thread to handle? Don't you have back child support to collect? Don't you have another country to flee too? lol yes I can read..

Yes, I do have back child support to collect and no, I don't have another country to flee to. Last I checked, Florida and Texas were in the United States of America. Um, you may be able to read, but you sure as heck can't spell. Didn't get past geography either did you?
And as far as you "handling" this thread? All I see is a sad, pathetic whiner looking for something other than legal advice. It's women like you that give stepmothers a bad name.
They have, not only counseling, but medication for people like you. Please, help yourself before your children are past the point of no return *tear*.

Google...bi polar and manic depressive..might help you. Oh, and "conflict disengagement". Oh and "anger managment, denial and plain old "I stick my nose in business I don't need to and cross examine my husbands kids so I can pretend I'm someone".
For someone who supposedly has so many kids to manage, you spend an awful lot of time here.
Toodles.

 

[Noelle_71]

Is anything being solved in this thread?

Just the OP's need for attention. I think I'm done, I'm going to get some popcorn and see what else he/she/it has to spout.

 

[yourock]

you are not the mommy and never will be so stop it

you need to stop trying to be a mommy to kids that are not yours.you had NO right to question them about what goes on at mom's, its NONE OF YOUR DAMM BUSINESS! go ahead and think you have a right to be involved in this, and see how far it gets your husband should it go to court. i gaurentee he wont win, and he will have his nosy meddling wife to thank for it.

 

[GrowUp!]

Quote:
Originally Posted by ConcerndStepmom
All hubby's lawyer kept saying was . "Why do you want to do that when you will get her on the flip side" Speaking of the youngest step daughter that he had the DNA test done, but fought to remain her legal father. She is 19 months now. She denied visitation for over 5 months. She filed a false domestic violence. She was found in contempt of court but due to her lawyer taking the blame that got thrown out. She was inform by 2 different judges and one magistrate 4 times of what was court ordered. She refused to comply until the final judgement. But got her hand slapped everytime.


They have been to court 5 times over the same crap. Both parties are to strictly comply with the standard model.
You all know you can't file papers one day and in court the next it takes time.

You all claim I am whining over this? I just simply ask questions and let you all know what's going on NOW. These are not only questions that we have asked but questions that the SCHOOL, the TEACHER, the DOCTORS and the PSYCHIATRIST (oldest SD's counselor) has ask.

They have been to court 5 times over the same crap. Both parties are to strictly comply with the standard model.
You all know you can't file papers one day and in court the next it takes time.

You all claim I am whining over this? I just simply ask questions and let you all know what's going on NOW. These are not only questions that we have asked but questions that the SCHOOL, the TEACHER, the DOCTORS and the PSYCHIATRIST (oldest SD's counselor) has ask.

Oldest SD had behavioral issues at school all through out the year, the one and only conference that she (the mother) showed up for, these issues were addressed. The teacher and school counselor addressed their concerns. The mother said she was going to take her to see a psychiatrist. She did the very first time the evaluation to see whom they were going to place her with. Mother has not taken her to anymore. Hubby or myself has, the couselor has asked questions that only the mother could answer because she is the one that filled out the paper work. For instance: The counselor ask a question about oldest SD hitting young SD for no reason. Hubby responded and said that she doesn't do that at our house and the counselor asked me the same question and I told him that I have never seen her hit anyone not even including my own kids. This is not the same councelor that mother seen the first time that took the intake. Counselor said that mother stated on the paper work that Mother said she thought her daughter was acting out because she was lacking attention from her father. And Hubby explained to him that of what happened last year her denying visitation. And that during this school year that has just ended that he only got visitation to his daughter every other weekend and one day during the week. That he did spend alot of time at school volunteering in her classroom and fieldtrips and so forth to have that extra time with her. But his daughter would see him every morning when he went to pick his younger daughter to exercise back up care while she had to go to school daycare per mother's request NOT his.

ALL BS aside.... If in fact there are problems arising with SD it's NOT because of ME as you all MIGHT see it (the JEALOUS STEP MOM) being so involved in SD's life providing the love and support she needs, IT will NOT be Father's fault for the lack of not trying. OUR two faces are the ones that SD's see. WE are the TWO that spends the most physical QUALITY time with both girls.

Again HOW am I a JEALOUS STEP MOTHER? splain lucy...

Really?! You know how to work the 'search' function?

Then how come you answered yourself on this post? And in case you think this was fabricated, just page up.

 

[yourock]

stepmom will never get it

Wow Kelly! Thanks sooo much for putting it all into perspective. I don't think anyone else did it throughout this entire thread.

sorry, but she is irritating me with this "this is my business and im gonna meddle all i can" attitude.i seriously doubt she will ever know her place is to keep her mouth shut and her nose out of it. i agree with another poster, i think she is trying to take mom's place here, and it will never work.but, its ok, let her see what happens when her husband goes to court, and she starts putting her two cents in. i hope the judge rips her a new one. instead of concerned stepmom, she should change her name to everything is my business

 

[MrsK]

Wow to long..

1 thing I wanted to say... they are in THE FATHERS care MOM doesnt have to provide diapers, formula, clothing etc. Thats called being a parent.

Not neccessarily. It depends on the court order, in some cases mom DOES have to supply all of that.

 

[Halls]

Well if that is the case MrsK, than dad can always file for enforcement of the order and that is the advice we gave.