singledaddytwo said:
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How lame that comment sounded. "You can't expect for her to be with them the whole time.....one week". How hard is it really......unless your selfish??
Blonde Lebinese wrote:Lame ? Get a reality Check . The kids do go to school right .
I tried to let it go Blondie but I couldn't. Yes, my children go to school, and the mother works all day which is just one more reason why I feel her "play time" should be done on her "off weeks". It has worked for me for 2 1/2 years, what is the big deal? Every other week, I am watching my two children go stay with their mother who I KNOW is working 5 days and 3 nights a week and going out Friday and Saturday night. Ok, if the math is right, at 1 night a week with the children, 3 nights working, and Friday and Saturday going out,
I am disrupting the lives of my children by transferring them every other week
to allow her to give them...in essence, a measily 2 nights a month of her time? If that sounds like a mother to you, then you need to take that "role" you wear so proudly and flush it because that is as poor of an excuse for a mother as I have ever heard. My children have even said, "Why go to mom's, all she does is works or go out drinking". If a 12 yr old can see that..why can't you? Maybe your ashamed of your own parenting and that is why you choose to defend ones that are clearly not living up to the "responsibilities" the role of a parent comes with.If that isn't the case, then I guess their is real meaning to the "blonde comments" made by people. It's funny , of all people to pick YOUR quote. HAAAA!! Again, she was awarded 2 weeks a month that she chose to dwindle down to 2 days as a result of her "high class" lifestyle wannabe. This is what makes a case along with the "setting a poor example" for my children by letting her 16 yr old sleep with the 20 yr old bf, per my attorney. For him to say he will resign his license to practice law if I walk out with LESS than PRIMARY custody, he must feel that I have legitimate concerns and if this is a LAW ADVICE forum, I want to know which one of you clowns wrote the lawbooks. So I guess when I get PRIMARY custody, I'll come back on here just to let ya know that your advice.... well.......read your quote.
Ok single daddytwo , I'll give you a brief summary of what I've been through .
I along with you , after the split up seen my wife as a " drinker " hanging out with " drunks " , and leaving the children with who ever she pleased .
I had Joint legal w/ visits .
Upon showing up one morning to visit , my young toddler opened the Door , 5 guys and the wife passed out , ( horrible scene ) . I went to CPS and was treated superficial to say the least ( I wasn't aware I could go to the Police ).
I went back and raised hell at the house . ( A month or so a neighbor called CPS and they made her clean up her act ) . After they closed the Case , it was same old same old .
Eventually she absconded and hid the Children in VA. to avoid having the Children taken from her .
I know where you are coming from , But as I said there is NOTHING Illegal what's going on with your children ( I do wish you well ) , but the reality of life is you can't control it .
Further my Brother is raising two girls because their mother IS unfit .
He has the same attitude about people telling him what to do , and will tell anyone that comes to his home , which way you want to leave my property , on your own or in a Bodybag ?
My advise buy setting an example was a good one .
You were also advice to behave in a manner to let the Children know you are there for them , if the want to talk or need you . It is good advice .
Love them , cherish , them , but be real . Don't go overboard or you will push them away . Teen years are NOT far off .
I'm not reading the rest of the threads , my advice to you is good . I have at least communications with my children , they know about each Parent and deal with it they way they want . I just appreciate have some kind of relationship with them .
Note: you are wrong Judging the People on this Board .
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