Nope quite honestly it saddens me to se how much these girls love their Mother and for her to continue to show no interests in their well being or their love for her for that matter.OP-YOU have succeeded in ruining these girls relationship with their mother. And you feel good about it?....how sick! I also hope mom returns (if you really say SHE was the one who cut contact) and mother those girls til it sickens you. Shame on your weak Husband for letting YOU make motions (paternity) when he didnt want one? That is a sign of how overinvolved you are. Forget about adoption unless you come up with more lies to document and give to the judge. Why even think about it when they still ask about their mother. I hope Dateline does a story on people like you. Not only do we need to watch out for sexual predators and kidnappers, but over involved stepmoms.
You can bet if they still have those kids she is going to routinely fill their head with crap to alienate them more from the only mother they know until they are brainwashed into thinking mom doesnt love them anymore. This is why mom is so distraught now and probably feels they are mentally gone from her. I hope she doesnt give up, because this woman is truly a sociopath with these kids.I really, really hope you don't say crap about him not being the bio dad in front of this kid. Because you seem to keep bringing it up and bringing it up. It's obviously a sore spot for you. I grew up thinking my stepdad was my dad-he came along when I was very young and I don't remember life before him. when I was about 8 my cousins and I were playing and they started saying all this HORRIBLE stuff about him "not being my real dad". It was a very shocking thing to find out. After that I got lots of references from family about not being his "REAL" daughter. It was a very painful thing to hear growing up. I STILL have issues about it. Are you heartless? I think you resent this kid because there had been a POSSIBILITY that it was your husbands. Obviously you KNOW he was sleeping with his ex if there was a chance it could be his. Even if she ISN'T his she is a constant reminder to you that he went out and played around. It's not HER damned fault!
Hearing you harp, over and over, about her not being his, just makes me very sad and actually sick to my stomach. I'm THIRTY years old and it STILL hurts when relatives make their "casual" comments about my dad not being my dad. He' the only dad i've ever had.
I think you are the one that needs therapy. That aside, give the woman a break! You have beat her down at every turn, she has lost her children.Nope quite honestly it saddens me to se how much these girls love their Mother and for her to continue to show no interests in their well being or their love for her for that matter.
I also hope and pray that Mom returns, as she is their MOTHER and THEY deserve to have a RELATIONSHIP with her that I and my husband whole heartily <sp> encourage and support.
Lies? Which brings this to mind. I suppose Mom's PARAMOUR (legal term) again this is a LEGAL FORUM, when he told my SD that this was all her FAULT because SHE (sd) tell lies on them, is ok? I guess the girls LIED when they said their Mommy wasn't going to pick them up anymore. That she wasn't going to be THEIR Mommy anymore. The fact is FOLKS we listen to these girls, we assure them that this is NOT their fault and should not feel as if they had anything to do with it. They are continously told DAILY that their MOTHER loves them dearly. That all we can do BECAUSE. "WE" and I say we because I get asked questions as well that I DO NOT have the answers to. this information is then forwarded to the Counsler. They are professionals and deal with this type of stuff.
I have answered questions regarding this issues is all. I addressed that here. I DO NOT speak of this to these girls.I really, really hope you don't say crap about him not being the bio dad in front of this kid. Because you seem to keep bringing it up and bringing it up. It's obviously a sore spot for you. I grew up thinking my stepdad was my dad-he came along when I was very young and I don't remember life before him. when I was about 8 my cousins and I were playing and they started saying all this HORRIBLE stuff about him "not being my real dad". It was a very shocking thing to find out. After that I got lots of references from family about not being his "REAL" daughter. It was a very painful thing to hear growing up. I STILL have issues about it. Are you heartless? I think you resent this kid because there had been a POSSIBILITY that it was your husbands. Obviously you KNOW he was sleeping with his ex if there was a chance it could be his. Even if she ISN'T his she is a constant reminder to you that he went out and played around. It's not HER damned fault!
Hearing you harp, over and over, about her not being his, just makes me very sad and actually sick to my stomach. I'm THIRTY years old and it STILL hurts when relatives make their "casual" comments about my dad not being my dad. He' the only dad i've ever had.
I hope you don't talk ABOUT it in front of them either.I have answered questions regarding this issues is all. I addressed that here. I DO NOT speak of this to these girls.
However their MOM has and continued to do so. That has also been discussed in one of my previous threads I do believe. Oldest SD knows, Mom told her and also told SD that her paternal grandparents are NOT youngest SD's PGP's. Youngest SD has told my husband that he is not her daddy that "T" (Mom's b/f) is her Daddy. My husband has talked with both girls and told them both that he is THEIR Daddy will always be their Daddy and no one or nothing would ever change that and that "T" is NOT and will never be. The girls have not said anything regarding this in the last 4 months. My husband has been Daddy and "T" has been that just "T" and spoke of as "T" by both SD's.
Isn't that sweet?With that being said your opinions are of course totally the opposite of what everyone that knows me has and this is including my EX. Who hates me with a passion as I do him.
Really? What a shame your daughter had to suffer for you to grow up.We have that love/hate relationship. When it comes to our kids and their best interests our feelings of one another are put on the back burner. Of course this was not the case in the beginning. Our relationship ended with a permanent Domestic Violence Injunction that was in 1999. 2001 I wrote a letter to the Judge asking for the injunction to be dismissed due to my daughter having a accident that landed her in a full body cast confined to a hospital bed for almost 4 months. It took this for him and I to put our differences aside for the sake of our children.
You would huh? Because of course lying to the children is better than dealing with reality. The fact that you would lie to your children about things rather than expressing in terms that were age appropriate the truth is ridiculous. Who did the lie protect? Not the children. Your integrity IS non-existent.I knew I would eventually have to lie for him when he didn't come around.
Was this before or after you actually had an HONEST conversation with them? Let me guess, your children believe babies are brought by the stork and they hatched in a cabbage patch somewhere, right?But I didn't have to it made it on the Channel 3 News and the Front page of our local newspaper of which my youngest son discovered while at school. On Mondays our elementary students recieve a newspaper for them to due a current event thing for a class. Our kids were devasted. How did I deal with it? I bought books of stamps.
Oh but this is AFTER you lied to them and they had to find out the truth on the front page of the paper. Nice going mom.I encouraged our kids to write their Dad at least twiced a week, draw pictures. They each mailed them seperately each and everytime. Provided Dad with the same and accepted all of his collect calls so our children could continue to have this meaniful relationship with their Dad.
Really? And truthfully that has nothing to do with how you are treating the mom of your stepchildren. I see it now -- YOU are the better mother. You are the one with the Golden Uterus because you are perfect and would never do anything to hurt the stepchildren -- who cares if you would lie to your children and they would have to find out the truth due to the news? Who cares if you are an adulterous tramp who sleeps around with married men? Who cares if you entered a relationship for your own selfish purposes regardless of the outcome? Oh yeah. NO one because YOU are perfect. I see it now.He's out now and has been for almost two years. He moved in with his Mom after his release as he had lost everything he owned before he was arrested due to the drugs. He then resumed parenting time his choice one night every other weekend and Holidays. There is NO court order parenting time. Ours has been in full agreement since the DVI. He has since a month ago got his own place and has started getting our children EOW.
Don't forget adding in LIES and you are NOT the mother of your stepdaughters you over-stepping adulterous paramour. YOu are aware that adultery is a crime? So we will add criminal to your resume okay?With that being said I am a wonderful mother and stepmother who fosters, fascilitates and encourages a relationship with my Ex as well as the MOther of my step daughters.
But apparently you can steal two children because you want to push mom away.You can lead a horse to water but you can't make the horse drink.
Umm because you are a lying selfish adulterous woman? Yeah that works. And can you please explain how it was YOUR request for a paternity test? I mean that is what you said. Or are you going to change it now? I notice you changed it in further retellings. Rewrite history. Please.Enjoy yet another ConcerndStepmom -----> Again this is my fault how? That's right it isn't. Thanks OG .. I do read and learn.
You all obviously have your own opinion of me which you all are entitled to have. I appreciate them.
With that being said your opinions are of course totally the opposite of what everyone that knows me has and this is including my EX. Who hates me with a passion as I do him. We have that love/hate relationship. When it comes to our kids and their best interests our feelings of one another are put on the back burner. Of course this was not the case in the beginning. Our relationship ended with a permanent Domestic Violence Injunction that was in 1999. 2001 I wrote a letter to the Judge asking for the injunction to be dismissed due to my daughter having a accident that landed her in a full body cast confined to a hospital bed for almost 4 months. It took this for him and I to put our differences aside for the sake of our children.
I'd say the jury is still out on that one.You all obviously have your own opinion of me which you all are entitled to have. I appreciate them.
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Oh my gosh, just went through and pulled up old threads by the OP. Thread after thread about how to get Mom in trouble (dv, driving a car without a license, Mom not parenting to SM's specifications, and of course, to CS issues)Looks like the treads started around 2006.This is not about what you did with your kids and custody. This is about how you interfered with the relatonship between the parents and kids that are not yours. Your friends dont know you are on here actin like an a** and therefore wouldnt know how you have schemed to ruin the bond between two girls and their mother, and ultimately with you and their father, because it wont be long before their behaviour becomes a reflection of what you did.