LdiJ
Senior Member
You know, I have reviewed the OP's previous threads and I think that I have finally figured out why he is being such a doofus.
He knows nothing at all about family law and how it works. He has been to court numerous times and has won most of those times. As a result it has emboldened him and he sees himself as the "winner".
However, what he doesn't realize (due to his lack of knowledge on family law) is that each time that he won, it was the normal progression for parenting time in an unwed situation. Therefore he didn't "win" anything. All he got was what any unwed ncp would expect to get based on normal progression and the child's age etc. What he doesn't understand is that he has basically "topped out" with his current schedule. His current schedule is that he gets every other weekend, every Thursday overnight, and a dinner visit on Tuesday. He also gets normal holiday time and normal summer time.
What he wants now is basically a dinner visit on Monday, Wednesday and Friday(of mom's weekends) as well. He thinks that he has created "status quo" by forcing these visits against mom's will over the last year or so. He totally does NOT get that he has done anything wrong. He sees it as a continuation of his "strategy" without realizing that his strategy wasn't a strategy at all...it was normal progression. He doesn't understand that mom has a real and valid "gripe" to air in court because he has unilaterally disrespected the parenting schedule against her will. He also doesn't understand the very real and major mistake that he has made in making those arrangements with the child, instead of getting permission from mom.
He doesn't understand that any further changes from this point on will require a change in circumstances in the life of the child...and no change of circumstances exists. He also doesn't understand that continually taking mom to court to try to get more time at this point is likely to result in an irritated judge.
On top of that he doesn't realize that he is eroding the co-parenting relationship which is just going to make things harder for the child from this point forward, and because he doesn't understand all of that, he feels compelled to give erroneous advice to other fathers. Eventually he is going to get his wings clipped and perhaps then he will realize where he went wrong.
He knows nothing at all about family law and how it works. He has been to court numerous times and has won most of those times. As a result it has emboldened him and he sees himself as the "winner".
However, what he doesn't realize (due to his lack of knowledge on family law) is that each time that he won, it was the normal progression for parenting time in an unwed situation. Therefore he didn't "win" anything. All he got was what any unwed ncp would expect to get based on normal progression and the child's age etc. What he doesn't understand is that he has basically "topped out" with his current schedule. His current schedule is that he gets every other weekend, every Thursday overnight, and a dinner visit on Tuesday. He also gets normal holiday time and normal summer time.
What he wants now is basically a dinner visit on Monday, Wednesday and Friday(of mom's weekends) as well. He thinks that he has created "status quo" by forcing these visits against mom's will over the last year or so. He totally does NOT get that he has done anything wrong. He sees it as a continuation of his "strategy" without realizing that his strategy wasn't a strategy at all...it was normal progression. He doesn't understand that mom has a real and valid "gripe" to air in court because he has unilaterally disrespected the parenting schedule against her will. He also doesn't understand the very real and major mistake that he has made in making those arrangements with the child, instead of getting permission from mom.
He doesn't understand that any further changes from this point on will require a change in circumstances in the life of the child...and no change of circumstances exists. He also doesn't understand that continually taking mom to court to try to get more time at this point is likely to result in an irritated judge.
On top of that he doesn't realize that he is eroding the co-parenting relationship which is just going to make things harder for the child from this point forward, and because he doesn't understand all of that, he feels compelled to give erroneous advice to other fathers. Eventually he is going to get his wings clipped and perhaps then he will realize where he went wrong.