theother....thank you so much for breaking it all down for me lol. If you read my follow up post...you would have seen I apologized to Mp for coming down on him so hard. BUT....you did say something else that I must address.
You said...." **I agree with Momma-tiger that this is probably not a true statement. Even if it was, I wouldn't think that it was right.
Well FYI, it is a true statement and it really did happen. Right for me...wrong for my ex lol. The judge didn't give a damn about my ex's income or how he would survive, because I was awareded alot more CS than I thought I would get...and I didn't ask for any set amount, the judge did that for me. I did ask for alimony though...and I got that too.
You also said..."**What are you trying to say? That not paying half of daycare will mean that he is not special enough to be a daddy? What are you implying?**
NO...I was not TRYING to say anything like that, and please stop anaylizing everything I say? Just because a man pays CS that does not make him a good dad...I sure wasn't referring that statement to mp, and again, if you read my second post...you'd see that I apologized to mp for some of the things I said to him. I do not make implications...I just state what I feel.
Yes theother....we ARE different and that's what makes this world go round. I have a few male friends who pay CS too...I even have a female friend who pays CS. I do feel for both sides too...but not the ones who complain about it all the time, or the ones who don't pay at all.
You also said...." Besides, since when has it been the parents job to bend over backwards to accomodate a child's wants? Yes, they should do whatever it takes to take care of their children (which would be daycare costs if it is necessary) , but wants are not needs.
I for one, would bend over backwards to accomodate my children's wants and needs, and in my opinion, it is the parents job to do just that. True...wants are not needs, but it's not the children's fault that their parents get divorced. They suffer enough with the divorce...I can't see taking anything else away, like their wants for example. Like I said before, I got a second job to make sure my kids got what they wanted and needed. A man can do the same...maybe it means spending less time with them...but isn't the quality of time more important than the quantity of time? Who said it has to be an 80 hr a wk job????
Now, as far as NCP not being allowed to worry if they have enough to eat at the end of the month is concerned...who said they are not allowed to worry??? I say, it's their problem how they will eat at the end of the month, and it's the CP's problem how they will eat. So I don't know where that came from or what you are impying???
Obviously, I was the CP back then, I sure wasn't worried about how my ex was going to eat each month, week or day...in fact, I didn't care if he starved. I know that sounds harsh, but I tell it like it is...my kids were and are my main concern. They are grown now and very well adjusted, even though I spoiled them with their wants, and I still bend over backwards for them.
