signing over rights

[needhelpinnc]

CPS is only investigating right now. Their was alot of lies that were told to CPS including the fact that i didn't let her know when i would be home and that i just up and disappeared. I didnt up and disappear. My mother is the one who took me where I was and then refused to come get me. She also has a problem with me being online when my kids sleep. I talked to my mother and my kids every single night I was gone.

 

[Shay-Pari'e]

If that is the case, go to court and modify the custody agreement so that their father has custody of the kids. Your mother has no rights to them.

For all we know her mom may have more rights that Dad. She doesn't want to give any details, just get fairy tale answers.

 

[needhelpinnc]

Neal who at the court would I need to talk to? Am I wrong in thinking that even the parents have no legal custody unless you file for it at some point?

 

[needhelpinnc]

What kind of facts am I not providing??? I'm sorry. I'm trying here.

 

[Shay-Pari'e]

What kind of facts am I not providing??? I'm sorry. I'm trying here.

Why is CPS threatening to take your kids away? Does the father have any visitation or custody? Why are you living with your mother? Why did you leave your kids with your mother?

 

[needhelpinnc]

CPS wants to take my kids cause they think that i just basically ran out on my kids when i was just going to stay a couple nights with a friend who needed me. Then when I needed my mom to pick me up she said to find my own way home or not to bother coming home and reported me to CPS. I live with my mother because my husband went to jail over violation of probation...well it was a boot camp and detention center not jail...and basically left us without anywhere to go. So we picked up and moved to NC to live with my mom and it's been that way for a year now. I let him see the kids as often as I am able to get them up to VA but as far as having anything done legally with visitation with him we haven't.

 

[Shay-Pari'e]

I hope CPS does get involved more, the kids do not desrve this mess. Get a job and a car!

 

[Shay-Pari'e]

I forgot something!

Stop acting like it is your mothers fault. You have three kids, and your mommy is dropping you off and picking you up from sleepovers?

 

[casa]

CPS wants to take my kids cause they think that i just basically ran out on my kids when i was just going to stay a couple nights with a friend who needed me. Then when I needed my mom to pick me up she said to find my own way home or not to bother coming home and reported me to CPS. I live with my mother because my husband went to jail over violation of probation...well it was a boot camp and detention center not jail...and basically left us without anywhere to go. So we picked up and moved to NC to live with my mom and it's been that way for a year now. I let him see the kids as often as I am able to get them up to VA but as far as having anything done legally with visitation with him we haven't.

If you are not divorced yet~ Then Dad still has Equal Rights to the children. He can come get them anytime he pleases normally. (HOWEVER, since CPS is investigating, you won't be able to send/remove the children anywhere until they complete their investigation).

You have 2 choices:

1.) Advise CPS that Dad & you are still married...and if he wants custody of the children, tell the caseworker that. Then Dad will work with CPS re; if/when to move the children to VA. (Assuming whatever Dad's probation violation was for- wasn't involving something which is a threat to the children).

2.) Cooperate fully with CPS and ask for a caseplan...which they will help you with. Complete whatever parenting/rehab/classes etc. that they require and try to keep your children.

What is the caseworker telling you ???

 

[needhelpinnc]

She has just basically said that it hasnt been a big enough of a threat to come get the kids yet and that they ARE concerned and that we need to sit down and definately talk because my mothers and my stories arent matching up. I see her first thing in the morning. She said there is only a small possibility that the kids would go into foster care. Would it be a bad idea to just sign over power of attorney to my mom for now and get myself straightened out??


And Shay... if I had a way to pay for child care, which my county is out of funding for, then i WOULD have a job and i would have a car. I can't exactly work when I have no where to take my kids right?? I know none of this is my 'mommy's' fault here. She was looking out for my kids. I am however back in school and trying to get a full time job as well. I didnt ask for personal advice...I asked for legal advice on my kids.

 

[jpriness73]

some people in this forum are just mean and judgemental. mistakes happen and here is your wake up call. if your mother turned you into cps after AGREEING to take you to your friend and obviouly AGREED to watch the kids while you were gone i wouldn't trust signing a poa over to her. if the kids were in serious danger cps would have taken them. it sounds as though they want to show you some programs and plans that will help you get everything straight. i would take everything they offer you.

 

[needhelpinnc]

some people in this forum are just mean and judgemental. mistakes happen and here is your wake up call. if your mother turned you into cps after AGREEING to take you to your friend and obviouly AGREED to watch the kids while you were gone i wouldn't trust signing a poa over to her. if the kids were in serious danger cps would have taken them. it sounds as though they want to show you some programs and plans that will help you get everything straight. i would take everything they offer you.

Thank you. I really am trying to do what's right and all some of these people are doing is trying to bring me down and make things harder. My mom did agree to drop me off. She did agree to keep my kids. Then when I needed a ride home she said find my own way or not at all. So I was stuck. I would never purposely hurt my children. And the only reason i was gonna sign POA over to her was so I could get out and work and get a home set up for them that was suitable...take some parenting classes which I know that I know I obviously need..and then move them back with me. Into a REAL home. And have money saved. And one of the ladies I talked to at social services said that POA isn't legally binding so I wasn't sure. I kinda think I need time to make a real home for my kids then try moving them with me. What do you think?

 

[jpriness73]

i would ask your case worker when you meet her. i read how there are no funds to cover day care in your county. perhaps there are other organizations that can try and help you out. i went to a local college branch i had some government help when i started out and i worked on campus and my kids were also at the daycare on campus. everything was rough at first and then it smoothed out nicely. it is hard work. just have to believe in yourself and surround yourself with those who believe in you too.

 

[Shay-Pari'e]

She has just basically said that it hasnt been a big enough of a threat to come get the kids yet and that they ARE concerned and that we need to sit down and definately talk because my mothers and my stories arent matching up. I see her first thing in the morning. She said there is only a small possibility that the kids would go into foster care. Would it be a bad idea to just sign over power of attorney to my mom for now and get myself straightened out??


And Shay... if I had a way to pay for child care, which my county is out of funding for, then i WOULD have a job and i would have a car. I can't exactly work when I have no where to take my kids right?? Are you kidding me? Get a daycare provider. You have the responsibility to support your 3 children, not having week long sleepovers.

I know none of this is my 'mommy's' fault here. She was looking out for my kids. I am however back in school and trying to get a full time job as well. I didnt ask for personal advice...I asked for legal advice on my kids. Who is watching your kids while you are in school?

 

[needhelpinnc]

She has just basically said that it hasnt been a big enough of a threat to come get the kids yet and that they ARE concerned and that we need to sit down and definately talk because my mothers and my stories arent matching up. I see her first thing in the morning. She said there is only a small possibility that the kids would go into foster care. Would it be a bad idea to just sign over power of attorney to my mom for now and get myself straightened out??


And Shay... if I had a way to pay for child care, which my county is out of funding for, then i WOULD have a job and i would have a car. I can't exactly work when I have no where to take my kids right?? Are you kidding me? Get a daycare provider. You have the responsibility to support your 3 children, not having week long sleepovers.

I know none of this is my 'mommy's' fault here. She was looking out for my kids. I am however back in school and trying to get a full time job as well. I didnt ask for personal advice...I asked for legal advice on my kids. Who is watching your kids while you are in school?

you know what? how about if YOU quit responding? you dont help anyway.