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[needhelpinnc]

i would ask your case worker when you meet her. i read how there are no funds to cover day care in your county. perhaps there are other organizations that can try and help you out. i went to a local college branch i had some government help when i started out and i worked on campus and my kids were also at the daycare on campus. everything was rough at first and then it smoothed out nicely. it is hard work. just have to believe in yourself and surround yourself with those who believe in you too.

There is also no room at the daycare on the college campus here. It's like I'm backed into corner every which way i turn. So you really think POA is a bad idea? Or even letting the Dad keep them for a couple months while i get everything settled?

 

[Shay-Pari'e]

you know what? how about if YOU quit responding? you dont help anyway.

Gee, You don't like being told to get a job and stop having week long sleepovers? You have 3 kids for God's sake! Act like it!

How is that for more help?

 

[Neal1421]

You still haven't answered about who keeps the kids while you are at school.

 

[needhelpinnc]

You still haven't answered about who keeps the kids while you are at school.

The only day i go is on Saturday and my mom keeps them for the few hours i am there. She is off that day.

 

[MrsK]

CPS wants to take my kids cause they think that i just basically ran out on my kids when i was just going to stay a couple nights with a friend who needed me. Then when I needed my mom to pick me up she said to find my own way home or not to bother coming home and reported me to CPS. I live with my mother because my husband went to jail over violation of probation...well it was a boot camp and detention center not jail...and basically left us without anywhere to go. So we picked up and moved to NC to live with my mom and it's been that way for a year now. I let him see the kids as often as I am able to get them up to VA but as far as having anything done legally with visitation with him we haven't.

So your friend needed you more than your CHILDREN?

 

[MrsK]

And Shay... if I had a way to pay for child care, which my county is out of funding for, then i WOULD have a job and i would have a car. I can't exactly work when I have no where to take my kids right?? .

Wait....why are you under the impression that it is the state's (read: taxpayers) job to give you money for child care?

 

[needhelpinnc]

So your friend needed you more than your CHILDREN?

I am there for my kids as well. Aren't YOU there for YOUR friends too? I love my kids. You guys need to quit insinuating that I don't. If you don't have anything better to do than judge me then i don't need your opinion. There are other people here who have helped today and been VERY professional.

 

[MrsK]

I am there for my kids as well. Aren't YOU there for YOUR friends too? I love my kids. You guys need to quit insinuating that I don't. If you don't have anything better to do than judge me then i don't need your opinion. There are other people here who have helped today and been VERY professional.

Honey, I have three children as well.

I love my friends, but NONE- not a SINGLE ONE- of my friends would come before my children. Nothing keeps me from taking care of my children- I stay at home with them and I am there for them 24 hours a day. My older two got up @ 3 am last night and guess who had to get up, too??? It wasnt my mom.

I can not even imagine what my mother would tell me if I said I needed her to watch my kids for DAYS on end so I could go "help a friend".

You are very correct, you need some SERIOUS parenting classes.

BTW, what on earth do you think a JUDGE is going to tell you if you think WE are harsh??? They are often fed up with seeing your type of 'mother' in front of them. There are a lot of people who wish more than ANYTHING they could have kids and would treat them well, and then there are people like you who think its everyone else's responsibilty to care for and pay for your children so you can do whatever the hell you want when you want.

 

[needhelpinnc]

Honey, I have three children as well.

I love my friends, but NONE- not a SINGLE ONE- of my friends would come before my children. Nothing keeps me from taking care of my children- I stay at home with them and I am there for them 24 hours a day. My older two got up @ 3 am last night and guess who had to get up, too??? It wasnt my mom.

I can not even imagine what my mother would tell me if I said I needed her to watch my kids for DAYS on end so I could go "help a friend".

You are very correct, you need some SERIOUS parenting classes.

BTW, what on earth do you think a JUDGE is going to tell you if you think WE are harsh??? They are often fed up with seeing your type of 'mother' in front of them. There are a lot of people who wish more than ANYTHING they could have kids and would treat them well, and then there are people like you who think its everyone else's responsibilty to care for and pay for your children so you can do whatever the hell you want when you want.

I'm not gonna sit here while you bash me. I AM here for my kids 24/7. Just because one time in my life i have something bad happen IM a bad mother? I think not. Everyone makes mistakes. I don't expect my mother to take care of my kids and I definately don't put anyone before them either. I guess I am a bad mother because I need a few hours to myself every once in awhile too huh?
You dont know me. You have no right to sit there and judge what kind of parent I am. You don't have a clue until you are right here in my every day life walking in my shoes. The ONLY one in my life that can judge me is God so keep your snide remarks to yourself.

 

[MrsK]

I'm not gonna sit here while you bash me. I AM here for my kids 24/7. Just because one time in my life i have something bad happen IM a bad mother? I think not. Everyone makes mistakes. I don't expect my mother to take care of my kids and I definately don't put anyone before them either. I guess I am a bad mother because I need a few hours to myself every once in awhile too huh?
You dont know me. You have no right to sit there and judge what kind of parent I am. You don't have a clue until you are right here in my every day life walking in my shoes. The ONLY one in my life that can judge me is God so keep your snide remarks to yourself.

Apparently CPS can judge you, too.

If you were such a great mother, they wouldnt be after you.

You've ADMITTED you need parenting classes- how are you going to throw a little fit now that people want to judge you???

ETA: Oh yeah, you said this too: I do want to clean up my act and I am working on that.

 

[LdiJ]

There is also no room at the daycare on the college campus here. It's like I'm backed into corner every which way i turn. So you really think POA is a bad idea? Or even letting the Dad keep them for a couple months while i get everything settled?

It might be better if dad kept them for a couple of months. He is their father and if his crime wasn't something that is dangerous to children he really deserves time with them anyway.

 

[needhelpinnc]

I know I need parenting classes. And trust me... I know that CPS is after me as well. They kinda HAVE to check things out when there is a report...right?!?
When I talk about cleaning up my act I am talking about getting childcare somehow, working, making a life for me and my children. I may not be the best Mom but at LEAST I realize that.

 

[Mbarr77]

I'm not gonna sit here while you bash me. I AM here for my kids 24/7. Just because one time in my life i have something bad happen IM a bad mother? I think not. Everyone makes mistakes. I don't expect my mother to take care of my kids and I definately don't put anyone before them either. I guess I am a bad mother because I need a few hours to myself every once in awhile too huh?
You dont know me. You have no right to sit there and judge what kind of parent I am. You don't have a clue until you are right here in my every day life walking in my shoes. The ONLY one in my life that can judge me is God so keep your snide remarks to yourself.

Not judging, but a few hours a day is not a whole week! Imagine what your kids thought while you are gone. Let dad take them, and raise them if he is any more stable

 

[needhelpinnc]

It might be better if dad kept them for a couple of months. He is their father and if his crime wasn't something that is dangerous to children he really deserves time with them anyway.

The only thing that worries me there is having such young babies that it is gonna be even more traumatizing than it already is for them going to such an unfamiliar place. At least here they can see me and they know my mother.

 

[needhelpinnc]

Not judging, but a few hours a day is not a whole week! Imagine what your kids thought while you are gone. Let dad take them, and raise them if he is any more stable

Honey I had no choice in the matter. I was stuck. And don't think for a second i didn't call them several times a day every day while I was gone. As far as Dad goes, he is working on getting stable. Not quite there yet. Although I admit he is much more stable than I am.